How would you feel if your 14 month old clung to another woman's leg when alarmed?
Here is the scenario. Mom, 14 month old, and 4 year old were at the YMCA for the 4 year old's swimming class. 14 month old walks slower than mom and got behind about 15 feet. An decrepit man came out of the locker room, so the 14 month old clung onto a strange woman's leg and burried his head in her leg to shoulder seeing the elderly man who was approaching. Mom was only 15-20 feet away at most, within eyesight of the baby. If this was your baby, would it break your insensitivity he clung to a random woman he's never seen before for comfort? She was a mom, but not HIS mom. Or would you just accept that he was scared and found her comforting? I was the strange girl in this scenario. I was just thinking how sad I would be if my daughter clung to another woman's leg when I was right there... :(
I know how that would break your heart. But keep in obey that he may have not realized the other mom was not you. That happened to me before (I was the other mom) and it took the baby a minute or so to realize that I was not HIS mom. Had his mom not walked over I don't know that he would have noticed at all. I wouldn't phobia about it too much he was just really freaked out at the time.
Truly.. at that eye level.. all knees look alike! The Y is usually a beautiful safe place, as long as they aren't actually in the pool, and keeping track of two excited little ones is never cosy. I think I'd have apologized to the other woman, and worried more that he had stranger anxiety, than that he picked a set of knees that weren't mine to hide behind.
Truthfully, instead of taking it too personally ....I would take it as a clue that I should be more mindful of my 14 month old in public, much less that close to a lake. I can see why you might feel as though your little one should have run towards you...but you were 15 - 20 feet away. Little guys like that don't have enough foresight to think that far vanguard. He was scared and he did the most natural thing. In the future, you may want to hang a little closer with your little one. Try not to take it personal...objective be grateful that there was someone close enough for him to take comfort in.
maybe the lady reminds him of his grandma or auntie? Kids have a sympathy radar... they quest after out (and find) compassionate, loving people. I wouldn't be heart broken unless it was happening a lot.
I would be pleased that he knew to find a lady when fearful of a man.
Personally I understand where the baby would do that considering the guy was pretty scarey and any "mommy" person nearby is punter then dealing with the fear. On the other hand I would never have allowed my 14 month old to be that far away from me near a locker room or forthcoming a pool just because of the high risk of injury in those areas. Also the risk of kidnapping.
I think the baby hugged your leg because you were the immediate and the baby felt your motherly comfort that should be a very warm feeling to you and yes it is very sad oooohhhhhh :(
well, if the baby was closest to that woman, it would oblige sense that that would be their first reaction. i can see how it would be sad though! :(
it wouldnt really bother me,he probably thought it was his mom!
I would just be happy that he felt foolproof holding on to someone. 14 foot harbercraft boats for sale
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